Comments on: Understanding Teenagers – For Tennis Parents And Coaches http://www.tennisthoughts.com/2007/09/06/understanding-teenagers-for-tennis-parents-and-coaches/ A Tennis Pro Sharing Tips And Thoughts About Tennis Instruction, Strategy and Mental Game Sun, 07 Mar 2010 00:59:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Tomaz http://www.tennisthoughts.com/2007/09/06/understanding-teenagers-for-tennis-parents-and-coaches/comment-page-1/#comment-161 Tomaz Fri, 21 Sep 2007 02:11:36 +0000 http://www.tennisthoughts.com/2007/09/06/understanding-teenagers-for-tennis-parents-and-coaches/#comment-161 Hi Joe, One thing that I prefer to do is instead of telling them what to do, I show them what happens if they do it the wrong way. Let them figure out and start accepting responsibility for their mistakes. If you tell them what to do, they keep relying on you. Now you are responsible if they miss. ;) You also need to go deep inside of yourself and examine whether telling anyone what to do makes you feel good. Or if taking too much responsibility for others makes you feel good too. These are all traps of your mind you need to become aware of. Hi Joe,

One thing that I prefer to do is instead of telling them what to do, I show them what happens if they do it the wrong way. Let them figure out and start accepting responsibility for their mistakes. If you tell them what to do, they keep relying on you. Now you are responsible if they miss. ;)

You also need to go deep inside of yourself and examine whether telling anyone what to do makes you feel good. Or if taking too much responsibility for others makes you feel good too.

These are all traps of your mind you need to become aware of.

]]> By: Joe http://www.tennisthoughts.com/2007/09/06/understanding-teenagers-for-tennis-parents-and-coaches/comment-page-1/#comment-160 Joe Thu, 20 Sep 2007 14:25:34 +0000 http://www.tennisthoughts.com/2007/09/06/understanding-teenagers-for-tennis-parents-and-coaches/#comment-160 Continued from last statement; You need to be more patient with your own children and always go about teaching your methods in a positve manner, never saying your are not going te get any better if you don't do like I'm trying to tell you. They will figure out their errors eventually as in the case with mine for they were making the errors in their match and they finally calmed down and played smarter tennis instead of trying to kill the ball and finish points to quickly. As for their service they still have bad habits but talk their coach and ask them to be more aggresive in helpling them correct their mistakes. Sometimes an opinion from another instructor from another person other than a parent can be helpfull. Continued from last statement; You need to be more patient with your own children and always go about teaching your methods in a positve manner, never saying your are not going te get any better if you don’t do like I’m trying to tell you. They will figure out their errors eventually as in the case with mine for they were making the errors in their match and they finally calmed down and played smarter tennis instead of trying to kill the ball and finish points to quickly. As for their service they still have bad habits but talk their coach and ask them to be more aggresive in helpling them correct their mistakes. Sometimes an opinion from another instructor from another person other than a parent can be helpfull.

]]> By: Joe http://www.tennisthoughts.com/2007/09/06/understanding-teenagers-for-tennis-parents-and-coaches/comment-page-1/#comment-159 Joe Thu, 20 Sep 2007 13:46:36 +0000 http://www.tennisthoughts.com/2007/09/06/understanding-teenagers-for-tennis-parents-and-coaches/#comment-159 I can relate to this article for I have 2 teenagers who have bad habits on serve techinque and producing topspin. When I am with them they seem to try and correct thier faults and it looks as though they will do well, but when they are in a match or practice on their team they go back to their same bad habits. Their ball toss is not where it should be along with their grip. They hit hard but often sail the ball long. I tell them to put more topspin on it but as you know it just goes by their heads. Any more suggestions or tips would greatly be appreciated. I can relate to this article for I have 2 teenagers who have bad habits on serve techinque and producing topspin. When I am with them they seem to try and correct thier faults and it looks as though they will do well, but when they are in a match or practice on their team they go back to their same bad habits. Their ball toss is not where it should be along with their grip. They hit hard but often sail the ball long. I tell them to put more topspin on it but as you know it just goes by their heads. Any more suggestions or tips would greatly be appreciated.

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