Hey Tomaz, I would like to thank you for all of the great articles on tennis and the mental toughness that comes along with it.

I’ve been fortunate enough to read and apply this information to my own tennis game and would like to say that slowly but surely it is making an impact on how I play.

I had always been the player to get very angry at matches and would explode with emotion and this was a question that plagued me and I couldn’t figure out why this happened.

Your information on tennis psychology has helped me very much in controlling and applying my best tennis to the game and another fascinating thing, life in general.

But my mind is always wondering and I just wanted to ask you about how our psychology reacts to other people’s negativity.

I mean at times for me I feel like when I hear something negative is said about me or even if I’m around negativity it for some reason bothers me.

I understand we control most of the things that go around in our heads, this is an amazing phenomenon.

But I guess my question is if this is something we can control, or is it on the subconscious level where it affects us no matter what even though we think we beat it.

I would love to hear everything there is to know about this topic and the human psychology on it in general.

May I ask you to leave your input on these questions that yearn for answers in my mind. Thank you very much for your time and your service.

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At the end of each year in my area, there is always a big tournament that my father actually runs and I help with.

It is always strong, and I always want to really win it.

I do find there is more pressure than normal; my results have though been pretty good, just have not won it.

Sometimes I get into negative thinking about playing really weak player at this tournament and things falling to pieces.

Generally I have to say; mentally my tennis has improved to close to almost unbreakable with your manual’s help.

I can say confidently I don’t think there is anything I can’t handle mentally.

The pressure that you feel comes from two parts:

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Hi, I am an excellent tennis player under 12.

When I have my training I always play excellent, but when I participate in tournaments I lose to players which I beat easily in the training.

This is a big problem, can you help me?

Hi,

I admire your courage to admit your weaknesses and look for solutions at this age and thank you for the trust.

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Hi Tomaz,

I got the manual about a month ago, and it is absolutely fantastic. I have a question for you.

Mentally, at stages it’s normal to have negative thoughts towards playing somebody who is way way way weaker than you.

I know I would beat the person most easily, but do have some negative thoughts about the match going all wrong if I had to play him, that I would get nervous/lose/be mentally broken, …

I would like some advice.

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You know the “names” in your tennis circle, don’t you?

There are names like Roger Federer, Rafael Nadal and Andy Roddick on the ATP tour and names like Serena Williams, Justine Henin and Maria Sharapova on the WTA tour.

There are of course “names” in your local tennis club and maybe you are even one of them.

I used to lose some matches to “names”, then eventually won some, then realized that this “name” thing is just a trick of my mind and I don’t play well if I listen to it.

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I have been playing tennis for a long time.

My problem is this: in the practice I have very good shots & also play matches well, but there are some people that I always lose against.

I feel nervous and out of control. What can I do to prevent or overcome this?

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I’m an avid competition level tennis player, but I’m going through a rough patch in tennis at the moment.

I’m 29 going on for 30 and there are times when I really love this game, but other times which make me hate it, or rather hate myself when I’m on the court.

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Hi, the reason I bought the E-book is that I am a tennis parent of a 9 years old son.

He is playing tennis since 2003 (then 5 years of age).

He is playing very well (and so a lot of other kids) but when he has to play a tournament he is awfully stressed.

Even for the matches in the first round.

Last week he made it for the first time to the final! But oh, what a stress, Tomaz.

He was crying for two hole sets (and lost of course and a lot of headache)!

What can I do (or say) to make him feel better or to take a little bit of stress away? (more…)

In order to keep my current rating I need to beat three people with same or higher rating.

So far in the season I have only managed to beat lower rated players and I have lost twice in three set marathons to people with the same rating as me.

The season is not over until September and I am determined to keep my rating.

Any psychological advice on how I would go about achieving this? (more…)

Hi, over the last few years I have been improving my game both physically and mentally, but recently its been downhill.

I used to get on the court and mentally fight out regardless of the outcome.

Now I seem to give up after the first hurdle and get niggling injuries here and there which prevent be from giving it my all physically on a tennis court.

I can’t seem to find an explanation for this mental lapse. (more…)